NO NO NO ...Is What We Feel YES Is What We Say?

Women what is wrong with saying NO? We always seem to have defend the simple decision to not doing something. It is a learned behavior as it is not instinct to feel one way and act another or respond against the natural grain. So why do we do it?

Studies show that about 75% of women have a difficult time saying NO. It even extended to telling little white lies. The key reasoning behind this is that the simple fact is people want to stay connected to other people even in the worst unhealthy ways.We don't want to reject people, We don't want people to think poorly of us, so what we really are doing is managing what others think of us??? What? A vicious cycle of never ending guilt-ridden, embarrassment, awkwardness in the that moment when someone asks the NO question. In that one instance we don't fully understand the emotional intensity of our feelings and emotional tension. Most the time the pressure is to great and we give in with a yes.

The truth is NO is liberating and it is a necessary tool in maintaining balance and harmony in one's life, be it the mind, body or spirit. All that giving in and sacrificing for others illusions takes a toll on every aspect of our human condition. The desire to stay connected to others, means disconnecting with our selves in most cases. So the first thing one must do truly be in tune with oneself and know when to deviate from social graces, and self sacrifices to understand that saying NO is a viable option.

Here are four  times one should stop and quiet and the inner desire to please others and instead listen to makes you happy. PERIOD!!!!!!!

NEED A LITTLE SPACE - Skip some social outings like Happy hour, or girls night out, perhaps one is engaged in many hobbies and classes and social meetings. Let one or two go, it will not fall apart if one does not show up. One is not the indispensable.

FEELING PHYSICALLY EXHAUSTED- Take the night or day off. Shift your priorities from the  routine get out of the same old same old and follow your FEELINGS> that GUT INSTINCT.

CAN ONE HEAR ONES' THOUGHTS- CREATE YOUR "CAVE" "SANCTUARY"- When one's thoughts are jumbled and taking control or out of control the best thing to do is RETREAT that is a calming and soothing word or at least it should be. It is not meant to be shameful or cowardly but enlightening as to understand that ONE NEEDS PEACE AND QUIET. Escape with a good book, a favorite TV show. perhaps a meditation to relieve stress, and quiet the mind.

NOT IN THE MOOD-JUST SAY NO- When one says no somehow there needs to be circumstantial reason behind the answer. Justification on the part of the one who is saying NO. There is only one true agenda and that is the agenda we have with ourselves. find your comfort zone and relax. Give yourself permission to stay NO without explanation or justification just a simple graceful No thank you, maybe next time.

Now these are very simple and easy times to take notice it is a good beginning to practice the art of saying NO. We live in a 24/7 world with lists, and chores, obligations, and on and on and while it all needs to be handled and taken care of to the one's best ability, it is also so very important to realize that one's self is the most important consideration and obligation to handle in the moment of the 24/7 hustle and bustle.

Take a test see how many times it comes up in a 24 period of you wanting to say NO, but you said yes you might just be surprised at how YES YES YES comes out way more than NO.

Namste my world tribe.

Emotion-cons???? Speak Loudly

We all know what burnout is. There are many categories under this title. Emotional burnout is the very heart and soul of most of the sisterhood on this planet. Go figure, it just seems the normal.We express them everywhere, wherever that little button lives we PUSH IT. What if just for one moment, we truly took a look at the definition of emotion, and do we really ever get to the core of it's existence to truly accept and start to the changes to heal.

Emotions control one's thinking, behavior, and actions. Emotions cause illness. Emotions also reflect in the physical body just as the body affects your feelings and thinking. Emotions that are not felt and released look at that sentence again, there are two parts, and one must follow the other. Balance and Cleansing.

What are Feelings and Emotions?

  John D. (Jack) Mayer says, “Emotions operate on many levels.  They have a physical aspect as well as a psychological aspect.  Emotions bridge thought, feeling, and action – they operate in every part of a person, they affect many aspects of a person, and the person affects many aspects of the emotions.

  Dr. Maurice Elias says, “Emotions are human beings’ warning systems as to what is really going on around them.  Emotions are our most reliable indicators of how things are going on in our lives.  Emotions help keep us on the right track by making sure that we are led by more than the mental/ intellectual faculties of thought, perception, reason, memory.

These are just examples of how people define the word. Interesting perspective on both takes.
One cannot control their emotions, it is an illusion. We must feel all them, positive and negative, and then must release them as they are only there in that moment. Everything is temporary including emotions. The energy in each of these "feelings" is a good indicator of exactly what is going on inside us. It is a wake-up alarm alerting one that there is something amiss. If one sits and feels and follows this energy of emotion it will truly take one to the core issue, patterns that have sustained all this time and what a load one has been carrying, but that is where the healing must begin.

Sisters they are so many signs to show just how repressed and deep those emotions go we must pay attention to our bodies and truly get to be comfortable with it's amazing engineering .

TOP FIVE SIGNS:

1. FATIGUE
2. Depression with no related cause.
3.Blowing up over minor incidents
4. Pretending something doesn't matter when it really does matter.
5. Lethargic "who cares" attitude.

How many hmm's got you wonder?

Ways to Identify the feelings?
1. Listen inner self's thoughts and dress
2. Nothing is too small of matter if it hurts it matters
3.Record for 2 months what makes you feel strongly.
4. Keep a journal of your dreams (they reveal a lot)
5. Positive emotions draw them in
6. Listen to the gentle whispers of your soul
7. Use your guides, universal divine, feminine divine, angels, magic.

RELEASING THEM TO THE UNIVERSE-HEALING BEGINS.
1.Speak one's truth- the core of the experience of the feeling.
2.Transmutting emotions- emotional meditation experience. Letting go through the breath different degrees of breathing based on emotion or feeling.
3.Releasing Resentments-even the tiniest will fester. Be thorough.
4.The power of prayer or offering
5. Meditation with heart of the Universe. Once you have relaxed, feel your heart, be with your heart.  Then go out into the Universe, and visit the stars and the spaces between the stars, until you find that sacred place, the Heart of the Universe.  Approach it slowly, respectfully and with humility.  Then ask that the love of the Universal Heart be more deeply connected with your heart, and that your heart be filled with the love of the Universe.  Stay with this for as long as you can.  Feel the love of this Universal Heart.  Once you feel your heart has received the love it needs at this time, thank the Universal Heart for sharing its love with you and slowly open your eyes and come back into the present moment.
We need to ask!

6. Shifting your perspective.
7. Detach from it
8. Know your fears.

Watch the button pushing they are always directing one's true inner core self. Feel it, Release it, and rise in all your glory sisterhood.